This Monday we celebrated Love Note Day…we know it’s not particularly business-related, but I have to admit that even though I’m not a super romantic at heart, I do have a fondness for love notes.
My husband and I met at work and started dating almost 12 years ago exactly – October 4th (my birthday) marks our first pseudo date. We were a workplace romance, starting up conversations while manning a booth at UBC together. He was new to our office, and I was being friendly. I couldn’t resist his beautiful blue eyes and amazing smile – oh, and he was intelligent and easy to get along with too! We had lunch together on the grassy knoll and things just kind of went from there.
At the time, we were both very nervous about the implications of working together and dating. We were both professional and didn’t want a potential “fling” to go badly and ruin our working relationship. We proceeded with caution and didn’t let anyone at work know what was going on. Despite our attempts to keep things low key at work, or maybe because of it, our workload was beginning to intertwine and our higher-ups put us onto a project together. This meant that we were spending more and more time together, which of course made keeping our relationship to ourselves and professional at work even more difficult. How do you communicate with someone who you are falling in love with when you need to be seen as “just colleagues”? Well…love notes of course. Dave and I would pass notes to each other, Dave more so than me I’ll admit. I have always had a hard time writing love notes – but I do love to receive them. I still carry in my wallet the first note he ever wrote me.
Despite our best efforts to be cautious and careful, we fell hopelessly in love with each other. A few colleagues saw us out together and I’m sure the rumour mill started winding up at the office. I remember diving behind a movie store aisle one day in an attempt to hide from a fellow work colleague when Dave and I were picking out a movie to watch. We got caught despite my efforts of course – how do you explain your way out of that one??
It wasn’t until the company Christmas party that we finally came forward with our relationship. Whether intentional or not, Crystal may have had one or two drinks too many and …well…the cat was out of the bag!
Work handled our relationship fairly and professionally. They moved Dave off the project that we were working on together, and they put him onto other work on the UBC Okanagan campus, while I remained on the Point Grey campus. They allowed us both to keep our jobs, for which we are still grateful, and we remained very professional in the workplace. Our boss at the time told us that we would thank him later for splitting us up to work in different areas, and I have to admit he was right. Although working together while you’re falling in love is exciting, it was not a good long-term solution for us – the separation between our work projects was great for each of us as we were able to make a name for ourselves independently from one another.
The rest is history of course! We were engaged within about a year from when we met, got married 6 months later, and now we have three amazing daughters. For all the fuss over office romances, I’d say ours was a huge success…and of course I still look forward to receiving love notes from my husband. Although these days they tend to read more like this: “Can you please feed the dog?”